This one is more about the practical side when separating.
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#1 Take a Look at Your Budget
Evaluate everything.
Is there anything you really don’t need to be spending money on that you can cut back on?
What bills may have changed with one less person living under the same roof.
You need to prepare to go it alone. To do things you may never have done before.
While you may be doing fine now. Your spouse may still be helping out in the same ways he did before.
If he is that’s great, I hope it continues.
Just be prepared in case things change.
What about the types of things your husband helped out with? Childcare? Home repairs? Car maintenance?
Maybe you can handle all that. Maybe he still does it for you.
But be prepared with options if not.
Do you need to consider a change in your living arrangements?
#5 Consult a divorce lawyer
I’m not saying run and file divorce papers.
Just the opposite.
You need time to process. Making decisions based solely on emotions is not a good idea.
This isn’t about decisions.
It’s about knowing all the possible choices so you can move forward armed with all the information you need to make the right decision when you’re ready.
By consulting a lawyer and knowing all the options that are available during a separation you will feel more in control.
Your lawyer will be able to advise you on what legal actions are available. Answers that are not only specific to your state but also your personal situation.
No two divorces or separations look alike.
Finances, kids, property and the dynamics of the relationship with your spouse all play a part.
How long have you been married?
Is the relationship still amicable or is it a war zone?
Is any abuse or adultery involved?
Are you still under the same roof?
Is there a significant amount of debt?
There are so many factors that only a good lawyer can really help you with.
Google and your friends can only take it so far.
Before going to the appointment with your divorce attorney, you should be knowledgeable in your current state of finances in regards to savings, budget, debt, and property.
It will save time and money to bring as much information with you.
Don’t try to wing it. Writing down is better especially if there is a lot to remember. You may feel upset, confused or overwhelmed once at the attorney’s office, don’t leave it to memory.
The tips from above will help you prepare.
Once you leave the appointment, even if you don’t move forward with filing a divorce you will have a better idea where you stand.
How long it takes to file court papers, how much money it will cost to file, and where you stand financially once the divorce is complete will get answered.
Meeting with the attorney may offer options and resources you didn’t know were available to you. Maybe you qualify for alimony. Length of the marriage adds changes sometimes.
If religion plays a part in avoiding divorce, legal separation from your spouse can be a permanent status in some states.
Some of the best advice is to understand that if you file for divorce it takes weeks before you have a court date for pretrial and from that point another 6 months before you actually go to divorce court.
This will at least put child support orders in place immediately if that’s a concern and you can still choose not to divorce when you finally go to trial.
You can even postpone another few months if you really think reconciling may still be a possibility.
What tips would you recommend someone navigating the new waters of separation and possible divorce? Comment below!
Hi, Yes, having a great family law attorney is very important. I should have clarified that the tips weren’t listed in any particular order of importance. Thanks for commenting.
In my opinion, the very first step should be selecting the best family law attorney to represent you in your divorce case. He will make sure you won’t end up financially devastated in the long run.
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You share an informative article. If we know how to consult a lawyer then it is very easy for us how to tell our problems.
Hi, Yes, having a great family law attorney is very important. I should have clarified that the tips weren’t listed in any particular order of importance. Thanks for commenting.
In my opinion, the very first step should be selecting the best family law attorney to represent you in your divorce case. He will make sure you won’t end up financially devastated in the long run.