Is She Ready to Shave Her Legs?

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So you’re wondering if your tween is ready to shave her legs?

It’s something we’re contemplating around here too.

Some of the early milestones were easier.

First steps, first tooth.

Sure they had their challenges, but now it seems every one of them requires a decision on our part.

Are they ready?

But the really hard part is, are we?

Now those milestones come so fast… phones, social media, dating, driving, jobs.

We not only wonder about how ready they are, how ready we are, but also how they all come with sometimes life-altering consequences.

Thankfully, leg shaving isn’t one of those…hopefully, lol.

But once begun, there’s no going back.  Unless of course, she decides to go all hippie on you and look like bigfoot.  Probably not at her age, but wait until she’s in college. πŸ˜‰

 

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I remember being in 7th grade before shaving my legs.  It wasn’t pretty.  Nicked knees and ankles.  Having to keep up with it once it got started.

Of course, we all begged to start shaving.  Get our first bra.  What were we thinking?

Another inconvenience of being a woman.  Yet as I’ve said before, “still beats being a man”. Besides they have to shave too.

But another milestone of puberty ushering in one more step away from being a little girl.

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Something gained.  Something lost.

But my daughter is only in the 5th grade.

When I was in the 5th grade it was just another grade sandwiched in elementary school.   Nothing really remarkable in terms of development.

For her it’s different.  5th grade is at the middle school.  Crazy right?

She rides the bus not only with kids who for me would have been Jr. High kids, she rides with kids from the high school.

I was worried about that at first.  She is super tiny and only just turned 11.

However, at this point, I’ve determined the K-4 bus was actually worse.  The language and topics are adult level.

For real.  I won’t even put on this blog the things they say.  And I swear on here!

On this bus, she says the high school kids are all just quiet with their phones and earbuds. Cool, let’s keep it that way.

Yet, the fact that she’s in middle school kinda changes things.

Her schoolmates are older.  They’re bigger.    In some cases, they’re meaner.

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While that shouldn’t be her problem.  Unfortunately, it is.   She has to see these kids every day.  Use the locker room.  Navigate the halls with them.  And navigate the tween and teen years among them.

So while some days I think none of that matters.  It does.

Kids have always looked to their peers to measure themselves.  But now the measuring stick seems different.

Magazines, when we were teens, talked about makeup and hairstyles, not sex and looking hot. They read like Cosmo.

Add You-tube and even just tv shows that are supposed to be geared for their age.  And it’s a whole new world for them.  One they are thrown into much sooner, whether we like it or not.

So what does all of this have to do with shaving her legs?

A lot actually.  Do we let her shave and suddenly she’s possibly noticed as more “sexualized” than the other girls?  Or do we let it go only to find her standing out as the only girl who has hairy legs?

It’s not like it’s her pits.  That would be easy.  Armpit hair has to go. She doesn’t have that yet.

Is she even ready to handle a razor?

Her knife skills are okay, but …  We all know it takes years of practice to get a nice shave.  After 33 years of shaving, I still get into the sunlight and spot areas that didn’t come out so good. πŸ˜‰

So how do you decide?

Ask yourself these questions?

  • Is her leg hair dark or light?
  • Is it long and noticeable?
  • Has she begun mentioning it to you?

Ask your tween these questions?

  • Are other girls in her class, especially gym class, shaving?
  • Has anyone commented on her leg hair?
  • Does her leg hair make her uncomfortable about her body image?

If it’s not that noticeable and doesn’t bother her, put it off.  Hey, winter’s coming. Who knows how often I’ll shave.  LOL.

If it is beginning to bother her.  It’s time to get out the razor.

Teaching Your Tween to Shave

Get a razor like this one and shaving cream or gel.   Gels designed for women seem to be significantly thicker and stay on better while learning.  They feel better too.

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While sitting on the edge of the tub, or in it if your daughter is comfortable, show her step-by-step using yourself as an example.

If you’re a single dad, you can still guide her by having her in a bathing suit or shorts on the side of the tub.

If this is overly awkward, consider asking the mom of one of her friends or a female family member.

Is Your Tween Ready to Shave Her Legs

Techniques and Tips from the shaving expert -that’s YOU!

  • A sharp razor is less likely to cut.  After 4-5 uses a blade will become dull and are more likely to nick the skin.
  • Never dry shave or use soap.
  • Always go against the growth of hair.
  • Slow going is key to safety and a good shave.
  • Wait to moisturize for a few hours to avoid irritation.  Never shave right before a pedicure.    The pores are too open and will invite infection or irritation.
  • Always clean it after shaving so it isn’t clogged with hair.  Gels are particularly prone to clogging the razor.  Always dry it when done.
  • Never share razors.

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Consider sharing some of your worst shaving moments AFTER her first try.

It’s yet another moment of comradery to share in as women.

It will help her gain confidence to know it’s not that easy and with learning screw-ups happen.

But I definitely recommend after…you wouldn’t want to scare her out of trying.  LOL

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12 thoughts on “Is She Ready to Shave Her Legs?

  1. Antonymous says:

    Hi, why is there no turning back? Hair can become hippie like (something against hippies? Kidding, but there are of all kinds, I know :)) or bigfootish, not because of shaving but of hormones and growing up that I know, the immediate effect is because of the blunt cut.
    Maybe you just mean it will hardly ever come back exactly as soft as that of one who never shave, but not really noticeably so :), just a bit rougher in my experience. I say this as a boy/man who, since some time started shaving beyond the clavicle aka, some other zones of my body, like shoulders mainly, underarms. But that’s completely a choice and so should be for girls I thing, I mean shaving is great if one, man or woman, likes the look, but we should let her know there’s nothing wrong with her body.
    Some stop shaving https://thebodyisnotanapology.com/magazine/8-things-that-happened-to-my-body-after-i-stopped-shaving/ no matter how hair might become after shaving :), which is great.

    • Laurie O'Rourke says:

      Hi Antonymous, Yes people should do what feels right for them. No shaming here, just advice to direct parents if and when their girls are ready. For MY daughter, her leg hair is currently soft, lays down and is close to her skin color. I know that once she starts shaving it will then be thicker, more coarse and turn black against her very white skin, hence my comment of “no going back”. While I don’t think everyone has to go with the flow of what everyone else does, middle school can be a tough time for kids to fit in. It will be up to her to decide when she’s ready. Thanks for commenting.

    • Laurie O'Rourke says:

      Hi Edward, You’re welcome! There really are quite a few options available to choose from for shaving needs these days.

  2. Blair says:

    I took the plunge the other night and shaved my daughters legs. She’s been talking about it for almost a year and her leg hair was long, dark, and noticeable. Plus, kids can be a holes. SO, I did it. I used an electric shaver instead of a bladed one. That freaks me out! Plus, she’s only 10! But, since I did it I know we have to continue. Do I stick with the electric shaver or do I buy her some sensitive skin hair or do I just buy a razor and hope for the best?!

    • Laurie O'Rourke says:

      Hi Blair,
      That’s a good question. I never thought about using an electric shaver. That’s a great way to get them used to shaving to start. If it worked well, why not stick with it for now. Because like you said, kids are most def a holes. And with only being 10 she can try it and get used to having a routine for herself and transition to a regular razor later. As for the nair, you’d also have to wait for it to get long again since it only works on longer hair, but if you go that route, now’s the time since it’s winter. Thanks for commenting πŸ™‚

  3. Oh this struck a nerve!
    My daughter is 10 and already worried about her leg hair… She doesn’t start secondary school until next year, but I’m sure she may start her period early, on top of everything else!

  4. Oh my goodness I am so not looking forward to this! My daughter is only 7 but her legs are pretty hairy already. I don’t remember mine being that hairy at 7 for sure. I love being a girl mom but there are so many decisions to make that’s for sure. Thanks for sharing! It’s definitely a wild ride raising kids!

    • Laurie O'Rourke says:

      Hi, Jessica, I know right. Every decision seems like such a big deal to us, to them. Like landmines. Okay, well maybe not landmines. But like one wrong move is going to have ripples. So glad you came by πŸ™‚

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